Discover your own process
It’s good to hear what others have to say, but in the end, you’ve got to do the work for you.
There’s no substitute for critical thinking. There are no shortcuts and there is no easy way to do difficult things. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that it should be easier.
No. You should be stronger.
Fortunately, it’s not a zero-sum game, and you can get there.
However, if you are realistic, anecdotal knowledge can only take you so far. You will have to face your own life circumstance, situation, issues, capabilities, and come up with your personal solution.
The solution is in your brain, you just gotta put the pieces together. Sometimes it’s a mystery, and you need to learn, but most of the time it’s simply a puzzle.